Monday, November 23, 2009

Home Study

Patience pays off.  Though I must admit that I was planning to email our social worker this afternoon asking him about the status of our homestudy.  I'm so glad that I didn't have to ask - I got the following note from our agency today...

 
Hello Tamara.  I have completed the home study but I just need two small details.  I need to know what your Bachelors Degree is?  and also we never received the test results for your water so once we have those in I can forward this to you for approval.  Thanks
 
We're getting closer!!!


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Thursday, November 19, 2009

where is my... homestudy

Last week our social worker told us that he would have our homestudy dispersed by the following Wednesday (yesterday) and that he would let us know when it got put in the mail. Today is Thursday and unless there's a message on the phone at home, we haven't received a call from him.

I hope that he just forgot to call us and be patient. You never know what might be going on in his own personal life.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Raffle Tickets

Yikes, I have less than two months left and lots of raffle tickets to sale. If we don't sale enough, we return the money back. What a pain and dissapointment that would be.

Are you interested in buying in tickets? How about helping us sale a few???

It's frustrating to me because I connect with a lot of people through my work but the rules there don't allow me to sale the tickets. I'm not trying to make excuses and I'm trying not to worry but reality is that I don't connect with lots of people outside of work/church. Pray for me will ya?

Along with praying for that, I've asked a few people to boldly pray with me for siblings/twins. I would add to that request that God would also provide the financial means of adopting another child. Yikes.

Homestudy visit #2

We met with our social worker again yesterday. We had a good little chat with him. We're done. As we left, our social worker caught us and remembered one more important thing.

Great!

The important thing he wanted to share: we passed!

I assumed so. In fact, I just figured we'd hear that eventually. He wanted to tell us in person. I really like our social worker.

Next step is that he'll write the homestudy, send to us to verify spelling and wording, then it goes to the national office for the Ethiopia staff to make sure it has all the correct info in it. After that is okay, the social worker will sign it and the homestudy is done!

Monday, November 9, 2009

Social Worker visit

Well, I must say I wasn't intimidated at all about the social worker. In fact, I think we were maybe too relaxed. Our SW showed up and I was just finishing with a few dishes and we still had a couple of loads of laundry on the couch that Ryan had just started folding. Our one remodeled room still had the pile of supplies since we have one wall left to paint. The dining room had molding laying across one side of the room with nails stickign out of it and was otherwise picked up but not looking super clean. We visited with our SW who was very sweet and informative. I, of course, made sure to aplogize for the laundry and explained to him that we're a busy family and this is just how it is at our house.

He seemed fine with that. And so did I until he went upstairs.

Yes, of course they look at every room in the house, including our bedroom that had the door shut for a reason. Our room desperately needs a good deep cleaning but it hasn't happened lately and since the weather is beautiful, it didn't happen this weekend either. Scott was adamant about showing his fish to the SW and the fish desperately need their tank cleaned. Otherwise their rooms looked like normal kid rooms - I swept up the lovely asian beetles that snuck in and the toys were mostly put away.

Of course he didn't look in the closets but he did go in the upstairs bathroom.

And not to check out our bathroom but to see that there was an additional way to get out of the house besides the stairs in case our house should catch fire. Of course, just outside the bathroom window is the roof to the porch which would allow for escape so he wanted to see that. Oh man. I didn't clean that room at all! And neither did anyone else. Hopefully he's not a major neat freak and didn't get bent out of shape when he had to step over the pants and underwear that my son had just pee'd in 5 minutes before!

And if that wasn't nail biting enough for me, he went into the basement.

Okay we live in an OLD house. The basement in much like a dungeon, not like another level to the house like much of the newer/remodeled homes around here. The basement for the most part is Ryan's domain and a place for storage. I don't clean it and certainly don't deep clean it. Yes, our SW saw all of it! Hopefully, he also understood that its not a place our children live in at all. Ryan's domain and the washer and dryer and that's about it!

We meet with the social worker at least one more time. We requested to meet outside of our home. Initially it had nothing to do with our home and everything to do with saving money by not having to pay him 50 cents per mile when we have to drive to his area to do any major shopping. Now that I think about it though, I'll be glad for him to not have to venture through my house again.

Traditionally, they do the house inspection on the 2nd visit. And he explained that when he got there. That would have allowed us another chance to get things deep cleaned a bit more. However, since we requested the 2nd visit to be at an alternative site, he had to do the inspection that day.

Good thing that part is done!

Friday, November 6, 2009

PRAY

I want twins.  I'd even love to get siblings.  Holt says the chances are slim so I've been trying to tell myself that.  Then I run across a family who adopted twins from Ethiopia or siblings.  I just can't get past it quite yet.  I'm going to boldly pray that God will provide siblings/twins for our family.  Specifically that we'll be offerred (through waiting child or referral) sibling/twins.  He might say no but I'm going to pray anyway.  Anyone willing to boldly pray that with me, for our family?




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Monday, November 2, 2009

Dossier Prep and more

As we're getting ready for our first appointment with the social worker, there's not really a lot to do.  I promised my husband that I wouldn't be crazy trying to clean every little nook and cranny before the social worker comes.  Really, I shouldn't have to worry about having a perfectly kept house when 90% of the time, it's not perfectly kept.  Granted, things will be clean and normal but the leftovers from the auction are still in the dining room and our library room is still under construction. 
 
Since I've not been so focused on that, I've been using my time to work on gathering documentation for our dossier.  I've really appreciated all those involved who've jumped right at getting the forms done.  Of course, they pretty specific forms and so things haven't gone perfectly.  My employer didn't even notarize my employment form nor did they mention my life insurance benefit that they should have mentioned.  One of our banks got the letter done only I didn't think to inform them that the notary couldn't expire in the next 12 months.  Since their notary expires in February, they're re-doing our letter.  Hopefully the medical letters are done correctly and don't have to be re-done. 
 
I'm so thankful that we live and work in small rural towns where its not difficult to get those things fixed. 
 
On another note, I chatted with the midwest branch manager today and that was great to ask a few questions and get some answers.  Because of my desire to get siblings, I've questioned why I even look at the waiting child list.  In talking with "C" today, I learned that our chances of getting siblings is slim to none because of age ranges, etc.  She also informed me that they don't let people stay on the wait list for a while just to get siblings.  We share Holt's thoughts in that there are way too many single children that need homes to wait for siblings.  With that said, I have a variety of emotions: I'm bummed to know that we might not get siblings.  At the same time, I'm relieved to not have to come up with such a large chunk of money.  But on the other hand, we want multiple children which just means that we'll either have to adopt again (paperwork all over again and save $ all over again) or have more of our own.  Sad to say, having our own is so much less expensive and easier.  Glad to say that I still think adoption is such a wonderful option and one that I think I prefer. 
 
Anyway, things are moving forward and I'm thankful.  THis proves to be a FULL week with something every night (last minute hosting friends for supper who are in town for a funeral tonight, typical Tuesday night, Wed night hanging out with Ryan's uncle who's in town, Thursday is parent teacher conference and bible study, Friday is homestudy appt and having friends over for supper.)  I'll be glad for Saturday morning to come :)


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